Hello, Reader

I realized something the other day…
and honestly, I caught myself doing it again.

We say we’re confused.
We say we don’t know what to do.
We sit in this space of “I just need more time to think.”

But I don’t think we’re actually confused.

I think a lot of the time… we already know.

We just don’t like the answer.

Because confusion is a really comfortable place to be.

When you’re “confused,” you don’t have to decide.
You don’t have to change anything.
You don’t have to deal with what comes next.

You get to stay exactly where you are—
and call it thinking.

I’ve done this my whole life.

I used to call myself a procrastinator.
I told myself I just needed more clarity, more time, more information.

But if I’m being honest…

I usually knew.

I just didn’t want to face the discomfort of making a decision I couldn’t undo.

So I stayed in the loop.

Thinking.
Revisiting.
Going back and forth.

Calling it confusion.

But really… it was avoidance.

And once I saw that, it kind of changed everything.

Because now, when I catch myself saying,
“I don’t know what to do…”

I stop and ask a different question:

What am I avoiding right now?

And the answer is almost always there.
Not comfortable.
Not easy.

But clear.

So maybe the question isn’t:
“Why am I so confused?”

Maybe it’s:
​“What am I avoiding?”

~ Michele

somewhere in the space between knowing and avoiding

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